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Abstinence -- Healthy Love -- is freely developing into your full potential as a loving person, and saving yourself for one person, who will be faithful to you, and you to him or her.
I. What Is Healthy Love?
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A. Qualities of Real Love
1. Unchanging, permanent
2. Generous, focused on others
3. Strong, deep, passionate
B. Where Do We Find Love?
1. Children for Parents
2. Brothers & Sisters, Friends,
Schoolmates
3. Husband & Wife
4. Parents for Children
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C. How Do We Learn Love?
1. Work at Developing into a Mature Person
a. Receive love from parents
b. Practice with brothers and sisters
c. Relationships in our family are practice for all other relationships
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2. Qualities of Mature Person
a. Responsible
b. Dependable
c. Trustworthy
d. Loving
e. Secure
f. Stable
g. Self-Control
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Qualities of a Healthy Family
a. Respectable
b. Honorable
c. Ethical, Loyal
d. Loving
e. Secure
f. Stable
g. Faithful
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II. Abstinence--the Healthy Choice
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A. What's Good About Sex?
1. Feels Good
2. Expression of Love
3. Makes Marriage Special
4. Creates children
B. What's Bad about Premature Sexual Activity?
1. Physical Problems
a. Unwanted Pregnancy
b. STDs/AIDS
2. Emotional Problems
a. Depression
b. Anxiety
c. Insecurity
d. Fear (of commitment,
abandonment)
3. Societal problems
a. Poverty
b. Interrupted Education
c. Inadequate Prenatal Care
d. Child Abuse & Neglect
e. Crime, Violence
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C. Solutions to problems with premature sexual activity
1. Abstinence
a. 100% protection from pregnancy, STDs, AIDS
b. Lowers risk for emotional problems
c. Contributes to development of self-discipline
d. Allows for development of healthy relationships
2. Safer Sex
a. Condoms fail about once every seven or eight times
b. Condoms invented for bacterial diseases: virus is smaller
c. Offer no protection from emotional problems
3. Mutual Masturbation
a. All sexual activity carries risk of AIDS infection
(1) AIDS virus attacks white blood cells
(2) White blood cells abundant in mucous membranes
(3) Mucous membranes of infected person can transmit virus
(4) Thus, all sexual activity can transmit AIDS virus
b. Difficult to stop from going all the way
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