A. Just Say No?  NO! 
  1. We all abstain--need to learn to practice consistently
  2. Learn skills with proper tools, instruction, reinforcement

B. Identify Challenges
  1. Peer Pressure--we all want to be part of the crowd (CDC Diagram)
  2. Confusion of Values: All major cultures agree on main points
  3. Emotional Desires: we all desire closeness, sex doesn't create it
  4. Physical Sexual Urges: Expressing, Repressing, Directing?
  5. Media Distortion: Hard to show real love in a visual medium

C. Make Your Decision 
  1. No one can impose abstinence on you.  Make a commitment to yourself.
  2. Know why you make your decision.  Write down your reasons.
  3. Own your decision.  Don't sabotage it.
  4. Act on your goal.  Make choices that support your decision.

D. Sex Doesn't Happen by Accident.  (Rules don't keep you abstinent!)
  1. What you wear                        3. Who you're with
  2. What you carry                        4. Where you go
                          5. What you think

E. Strategy
  1. Dress Healthy: Package shows most important aspect of contents

  2. Take Healthy Stuff
  a. List of friends who support your decision
  b. Quarters for phone calls (or call collect!)
  c. List of reasons for choosing Healthy Love

  3. Hang out with healthy people: use positive peer pressure
  a. Find friends who support your decision to be abstinent
  b. Encourage your friends to practice Healthy Love

  4. Hang out in healthy environments: bright, open, clean air, family atmosphere, planned, early, lots of people

  5. Think healthy: Be aware of your own limitations
  a. Control what you watch: change channels or activities
  b. Talking about sex will make you think about sex. 
  c. Change the subject, or talk with someone else
  d. Focus your thoughts on real love.

F. Live Your Dreams!
  1. Think about your goals in life.
  a. Where do you want to be 3 years from now, 5, 10, 20?
  b. Develop an aim, aspiration.  Plan education, equipment, money
  c. Want to be alone, or have family, partner?  Plan your emotional future!
  d. You make your dreams come true by making healthy choices

Put your energy into developing your true character -- when the time is right for physical love, sexual relationship will be healthy, pure, untarnished, with no regrets from the past.